Relationships are hard, but dating is worse. At least, that's how it feels to this singleton! I'm not one for this whole dating lark - I know lots of people really enjoy it, the excitement of it, the newness of everything, but I way prefer feeling totally comfortable with someone in that way that only comes with spending lots of time together. So I thought I'd share some of the things I hate most about dating. (apologies that my lists are all about dating lately - I promise to move on soon and go back to lists about dogs and TV shows!)
1. you text him. He doesn't reply. You text again. He doesn't reply. You give up and make other plans. Twelve hours later he texts as if nothing happened.
2. that awkward end of date moment where you don't know whether to hug, shake hands, peck on the cheek, or full on snog. At best you end up having to turn your lip kiss into some weird eskimo nose rub thing, and at worst you end up with your face buried in his far too moist armpit.
(I also have this problem when meeting new people as friends - normally I'm a smile and wave at introductions, hug when you say goodbye kind of girl, but apparently other people see this as weird?!)
3. the age old question - who pays for what? I'm a modern girl, I can (mostly) pay my own way. It's nice when someone offers to pay for something, but I think it should be split pretty evenly. I get uncomfortable when a guy insists on paying for everything like it's his god given duty. I know, I know, he's being nice, I should graciously accept and shut up. But I hate that awkward standing at the bar with your purse out and having a mock fight over who gets to give the bartender their card!
4. conversations about exes. Somehow, no matter how hard you try, they always slip in there somewhere.
5. the awkward moment when the couple sitting near you starts making out and you feel pressured to do the same. (no, just me?!)
6. those horrible nervous butterflies that mean you don't feel much like eating all day before a date, and so when you drink two cherry beers you ended up rather tipsy and talk about a fox eating a baby's face for longer than is generally considered normal.
7. "so where do you want to go?" "I don't mind, where do you fancy going?" "I don't mind, where do you want to go?" I'm not bothered really, anywhere is fine." repeat times a thousand.
8. when there is a lull in the conversation and you realise you cannot think of a single thing to say so instead you panic and go to the toilet and text your friends.
9. at what point are you boyfriend and girlfriend? Is it meant to be a spoken thing? Or is there a minimum number of required dates? Are you meant to discuss it or just assume you are? What if they think you're not in a couple but you think you are? Or vice versa.
All you couples -how did you get there? Did you do the awkward dating thing, or was it natural from the start? xoxo